T6

Tian shi 6

Monkey King

What is your opinion about marriage? Tian shi asked Monkey king. He was pleasantly surprised to here this question from her. Knowing her well, for her working and thinking like a man, controlling many men and women in her team with her knowledge and sharp acumen Tian shi was to be classified into a modern day feminist.

She talked tough outside, was always on guard physically and mentally. Yet a soft romantic and sensuous girl inside she was, as well as a mother longing for a chubby child was sleeping inside her like a secret fire inside wet coal.

"Marriage is Maya. Its a dense forest with enchanting pools, trees with fruits and flowers. There are no clear roads inside, often people lost their directions inside the jungle of joy. Those who were outside it, longed to get inside and experience the nature's wonders. Those who entered it have at times lost their directions and wandered deep inside, often fell prey to the wild animals like tigers and lions, which are nothing but the emotions of life partners.

Union between an unknown man and woman is the best thing to happen in life. Parents come with us until school gate, brothers and sisters too come up to some distance. Until twenties, we are genderless and fearless. After twenties, every individual is an adult. An adult is separate from parents and siblings now. 

He or she are equipped to create a new world of their own now. Getting a partner who is loving, caring and pampering is the essense of marriage. Every lady is a queen in her husband's mind irrespective of how big or small his kingdom is.

He has to treat his queen like an angel. He needs to compliment her, appreciate her for her looks, talks, smiles, manners and even for the way she walks, runs and turns her head in style. She is the one who will wait for the evenings to spend time with her love. She will share the stories of the day in night, will share the water, food, sweat, bed and blood with him as if they are going to live for ever and ever. 

She will share his burdens, his stress, his social success and failures. She will carry his sons and daughters in her womb and create their offsprings to outlive them. She will remain silent when he is angry, the same way when she is feeling low, he should kiss her, cajole her, rub her feet and gently massage her neck and shoulders and make her relax.

She will teach him how to cook, how to clean the home and how to live like a hero. He will listen to her, verbal, nonverbal and facial gestures. Looking eye to eye, he should know what she feels is pain or pleasure. If its the pain he should be the soothing breeze and refreshing rains. If it is the pleasure, he should be the fuel to fire it full and quench her thirst of mind, body and soul.

At their best moments, they will be twinned together like loving snakes, happily eating each other. Yet they provide the required space and freedom to keep their individuality, self respect and identity. Marriage is simply complex, its not a destination its a journey. Its neither  heavenly nor hell all the time, its great happy lucky go mixed experience of spontaneous happenings. Its like sitting in a dining table, with blindfolded eyes. What is kept on your tongue is it green or meat, sweet or spicy you will never know. One of the partners may have tasted cucumbers with black pepper, salt and yogurt. Other might think cucumbers taste great with sugar and frozen for few hours. The exchange of ideas, hugs, kisses and cuisine make marriage a place of friendship, courtship and worship. Address each other with respect and love before you undress to make love is the unsaid rule of marriage.