T2

Tianshi 2

By Monkey King

Chinese in Malaysia are 24% of the total population and second largest ethnic group. They are active in business and trading. They don't proclaim or differentiate themselves when asked about their nationality, they would say 'Yeah. I'm a malaysian' 

When you ask them, 'Then why do you look different?' then they would talk about their ethnic origin which is main land China and great grandparents migration many generations before.

A Chinese Malaysian or Malaysian Chinese girl whatever you call, she grows in diversified cosmopolitan society in Malaysia. She has friends and neighbors who are local Malay Muslims, Chinese Buddhists like her and Indian Hindus. 

She speaks mandarin at home and Malaysian bahasa outside. Her English levels are way above her counterparts in main land China.

She is highly confused and at cross roads when it comes to her marriage. Whenever life gives you many choices, like ice cream coffee and hot chocolate, you find it difficult to choose one.

She can marry a Malay boy. He is honest, sun tanned romantic young man. He can love you and share a great relationship with you. Then what is the issue? Go ahead and enjoy, right?

Wait. There is a catch. He is a Muslim, so you need to convert to Islam and marry him. After that, forget your casual beers to chill out in hot tropical weather of Malaysia!

While Chinese girl Malay boy marriage could be a successful combination, she has to bear the cultural and religious differences with her husband's parents and other in-laws family. There have been many divorces reported on a later stage, by this time you have kids born and need to take care and you can't convert back from Islam.

What if she marries a fellow Chinese guy like her? Well the same religion, culture tradition all the same, but yet there are certain things to think before. He could belong to a traditional Chinese family, which is proud in celebrating their male power. 

"He is the eldest son in our family and leader of all". We wish to bring a kuan yin for our family. Is she willing to loose her identity and become Mrs So and so, to be a ever grinning trophy wife, a faceless identity-less creature, bearing his children, raising them and follow raising her grand children and die one day nameless and clueless?

Can she marry an Indian guy? Not a bad idea either. No issues regarding religion, need no conversion what so ever. But there could be some issues related to food. 

He could be a vegetarian, a spicy food eater and may pose problems this way. Also the Indian boys are known to be soft fickle minded, mama's boy. By the time he transfers his loyalty to you in full, you will be a mother of a handsome grown up young man.

Tianshi is Malaysian, She is Chinese too. She is also smart. Thats why she is a career woman. She works drives earns like a man and hardly she needs him for her economic survival.

But she would marry one day, to spend her evening sitting next to her husband and open her heart and talk a lot. They would look into each others eyes and discuss anything and everything under the sun. 

Their topic of discussion is not of any importance, it is their togetherness which is. By that time they would have a son and daughter, smiling, playing and running around the home, as proof of their loving relationship.