Sunday, 21 February 2010

Landing Hong kong, with two drops of tear rolling down

Hanoi


With co passenger Chang Yen at Bahrain airport

Landing Hong kong, with two drops of tear rolling down
Dammam Bala

“Mr.Ronald, I am Engineer Bala from PEB Engineering! Just now I received your email. It shows my e-ticket booking from Bahrain to Hanoi. What about Dammam to Bahrain link?” – I called my admin personnel, the other day.

‘You need to report to Gulf Terrace Hotel at Khobar by 5 o’ clock in the evening; Cathy Pacific limo will take you to Bahrain from there!’ – replied Ronald in his typical philipino accent.
Thursaday and Friday were hectic, purchasing and stocking items at home, including gas, drinking water,cooking water etc. Friday evening, as usual last minute packing was going on when my colleague George visited me to wish bon voyage. By the time I had messed up the home as if we all were leaving the place. Our office driver Jiji showed up exactly at 4 pm to take me to Gulf Terrace.

With a few parting hugs and kisses with kids (I always include Radhika too in my kids’ list :-) I left home. Jiji was talking something with his usual cheer while my mind was lost in thoughts connected with my future placement and responsibilities. At times I did envy Jiji a bit, in spite of his meager income he too kept his family in Saudi, his wife not working, somehow managing to retain a broad smile in face. I myself have never counted my blessings and always brooding on opportunities lost and missed!

Gulf terrace was not new to me; we had conducted our toastmasters area contest, a couple of years ago. But after reaching there, I was informed that cathy pacific’s pick up point is another location; the gulf terrace plaza, few buildings away. Jiji dropped me and left.

When I reached hotel reception, the attendant told me that the bus starts by 7pm only and not 5pm! All because of this Ronald… I thought. Should I stay there or should I go back to home to come again? I was pondering. Suddenly a thought came to my mind. Two hours.. YES..TWO HOURS.. I have got as bonus in life! Two hours free from schedules, deadlines, releases, pending requests from Boss, pending play station 3 dvds from Aakash. Two hours in no mans land; two hours in international waters beyond country borders!!

I kept recapitulating many ideas and felt relaxed; I picked up a casual conversation with my fellow passenger, Hong a chinese business man from Hong kong. He looked really smart and was commenting high about Indians, supporting his index finger pointing the head, compensating for his broken English. He did mention his observation that he found plenty of Indians and Philipinos working in Middle east, attributing the reason to their English!

Since I had more than an hour at my disposal, I took my mobile and started calling Amma, my aunts and uncles, seeking their blessings with the courtesy of cheap fring calls. Apart from talking to them, it also served as my preamble for radhika and kids settling back in Chennai.

Fifteen long years have passed in Saudi Arabia, thirteen of them with family staying together; all of a sudden, the change has come. Now I need to get adjusted to new place, back to forced bachelor hood; School admissions for children in Chennai, people taking about difficulties in obtaining them, endless queues and sleepless nights associated with! Is it all worth? Whether it is worth or not worth, it has to be done that way. The decision has been taken; the ball has started rolling!

By 7:30 pm our coaster started its journey to Bahrain. The van had an attached cabin, that housed our luggage. Dammam to Bahrain via Khobar is only a short distance. I could not see a single Indian apart from myself around. Other than my new Chinese friends, there were few philipinos and Koreans/japnese, all looked the same to me with their tiny eyes and flattened nose. Dammam to Khobar is 20 km by land. From Khobar to Bahrain, the travel is by the man made bridge across see, called King Fahd Causeway. This connects a small island in the middle. Half of the island houses Saudi customs and the other half the Bahrain’s. Week-ends witness heavy rush and queuing of cars from Saudi side with people longing to get liberated in liquid state. That day being Friday, the rush was from Bahrain side with returnees.

Our driver collected all our passports like a bunch of vegetable and went to the counter. Later, we were requested to join. The Saudi official in the counter was in his usual unfriendly style and greeted us in Arabic monosyllables similar to our po..po.. in tamil. I greeted him salam alaikum and he became friendly for a fraction of second and went back to his original status. The building was a curved roof cubicle, with 10+ pc monitors, but only one person. There were two window acs. The L shaped full length open counter had an un matching full height glass door on one side. There was a telephone at the corner and on its concrete slab stand, there was a concrete hollow block too, without serving any purpose what so ever!

When our driver returned to our van after half an hour, we thought we were lucky to leave in record time; but as usual it was not to be so! He came inside and asked who is thi yen? A lean, clean shaven (may be birth, like that?!) boyish gentleman raised his hand. “Come down.. your exit re entry visa has expired, four days ago, it seems. Now you go back to Saudi, get it cleared and then travel!” poor fellow.. hope he is not going for his own marriage; the Arabic wordings, dates and letters, goofing up of his company admin.. and lack of his own double checking has cost him this trouble. By the time our driver disposed him and came back, we lost another half hour.

Clearing the Bahrain side of cause way, we finally entered ‘business friendly bahrain’ as they call themselves, we came across a bit of free air and huge colourful hoardings all the way. Bahrain, such a tiny country has cleverly encashed the conditions imposed by its neighbours. My Chinese friend kept appreciating the sky scrapers of Bahrain as we advanced towards its airport island Muharraq. On our way, we could see the cinema hall with a big display of ‘my name is khan’.

This khan has had lots of resistance in not only in Mumbai, he could’nt enter in Saudi too. With no theaters around, the only way for him to sneak in is in a compact disc form!

After we entered Bahrain airport, the passengers in van were eager to get out at every stop over. The driver kept on telling.. wait.. wait.. all the way. I, have been waiting a little too long for 15 years my dear.. I was telling myself silently :-))

Our flight to Hong kong was scheduled for early morning 1:00 am. By this time, Hong and I have become good friends by this time; we had some French fries and coffee in Mac Donalds and I got invitation to visit Hong in Hong kong in the near future. Like Dubai airport, Bahrain airport too is more a hypermarket and less an airport. So passing time there was a breeze as usual; the wifi helped to complete some unfinished business in my sleek and inexpensive acer netbook.

As per scheduled time, Cathy Pacific flight departed to Hong kong. They showed their professionalism the way they treated us. The airhostesses were quite friendly; one by name Jim was initially amused to learn that I was looking for vegetarian meals. Some how he arranged to get a look alike stuff! He did handed over a bag full of muffins and fruit salads, to bail me out during hong kong – Hanoi travel, as Vietnamese airlines could find it difficult to decipher vegetarianism and eventually he did prove himself right, later!

7 hours by flight looked pretty longer for me, against my usual 3-4 hours flying to India. Most of the time went in sleeping. Whenever I was awake, I was juggling between the 50+ channels in the mini lcd tv before me. Half of its channels were repetitions, with a funny time lag of few minutes. Finally I settled for a Chinese movie with English subtitles. (I didn’t put the head phones at all). The movie appeared more Indian to me with too many dadas, mafias and street fights, but for a bit of explicit adult content.

By the time I started watching the movie, half the way, I understood that the heroine Pamela is a comfort worker(!) but she is good at heart and has a mentally retarded physically grown up sister to protect from the hawkish thugs. There is a petty rowdie by nick name ‘porcupine’. He irritates us with his looks and keeps chasing Pamela and her sister with lust. He competes with another young and corporate style don by name Peter for ‘number one’ slot in the locality. It is the time, the hero by name ‘Fai’ enters the scene. Fai is an old time ally of porcupine. In fact he has been a active hitman in his teens and has killed 20 opponents before getting shot by a cowardly police officer. As Fai gets released, both porcupine and peter try their best to win his friendship to their advantage.

Fai, resembles udayanithi stalin with ottu dhadi ; surprisingly cool and seasoned with his long served jail term. When he returns to his home town Mangkok, he is totally disappointed to see it as a different place altogether with a his old frequenting places, theatres and midnight shows gone. The police officer who shot him 30 years ago, is still around and he tries to bring Fai, porcupine and peter into his iron fists. Some graphics here and there extends the prison mentally to Fai, and when he says, we are never free.. just out from one prison to another’.. we do agree with him, momentarily!

Fai, incidentally saves Pamela and her sister from porcupine. The really touching episode starts when, Fai visits his mother. Demoralized by Fai’s imprisonment, Fai’s mother fails to recognize him with her demnitia; she keeps telling him, her son is working in a far-away place. Fai coolly tells her, he in fact is Fai’s friend and his name is Pschyco. She then allows him and his friends to her house and serves them water, generously!

After a couple of scenes, Pamela too joins them. In a cinematic way, Fai’s mother regains her consciousness; he gives her a head bath and they have their hearty chat and his mother dies smoothly at that moment as an anti-climax. Suddenly that scene made me emotional; I thought why am I wandering like this in my life? I could have also done a graduation in tanjore poondi pushpam and settled in AG’s office like my elder brother (cousin) Kumar and at least I could have been lucky to meet my mom every day evening! Tears started rolling down my cheek, by the time our flight safely landed in Hong kong, bringing me back to the realities of life!

Hong kong Air port was clean and elegant, surprisingly with low activity and less passengers around. It took another 2 hours flying for me to reach Hanoi airport. From the above, it is all green and water everywhere around. With the airport not even matching the Coimbatore airport(ashok, excuse), I felt a bit disappointed as if we have made an emergency landing in a paddy field. But for the remoteness of the airport and the approach route to Hanoi, I am pretty impressed with Hanoi city. It is peaceful, nice buildings, people and excellent weather! To some extent it reminds me of the Bangalore which I was familiar to in 90’s.

My Zamil Steel senior colleagues as well as fellow Tamil friends Satheesh and Mani were generous enough to pick me up from the airport. Satheesh extended the hospitality by arranging a grand dinner at his home, introducing many fellow tamil friends cum colleagues; the place looked like a mini extension of Chennai then!

Now that I have spent more than 24 hours here, I am lucky to have a relaxed Sunday to share my little and big thoughts and bore you as usual. Tomorrow onwards, I need to be on my toes for two weeks take over and subsequent return to Saudi Arabia, final wind up operations, selling the car, settling family and move to Hanoi in April, permanently(!?!) I don’t know whether I will keep the same enthu and energy to write in this forum with my newly acquired assignments.

Ultimately, where will I go? Kazhuthai ketta kutti suvar!!! :-))))

Cheers
Bala G(ot to make a mountain out of a mole hill, as usual :-)
PS: BTW if any one knows the name of the movie that I have described, please be kind enough to tell me.

Saturday, 2 January 2010

How are you baby? –A Tribute to Phili Teacher

How are you baby? –A Tribute to Phili Teacher
Dammam Bala

Dec 23, 2009... This quotation is urgent; that query needs to be answered by today another hectic working day in Dammam. That day morning, I didn’t expect a call from Radhika. She never calls from school like that... “Something is wrong!” I was telling myself.

“Bala... There is bad news; Phili teacher is dead!”- Radhika’s voice was cracking and she was about to weep.

”School ka buddi teacher mar gaya kya”- that was Binu; “inngine kaya pidichu pogum teacheru marichu poyo.. ende mone school focus bookile photo kanichu”-said Varghese. It seemed that Phili teacher’s news had already spread across Dammam and Khobar, quickly.

Phili teacher! Short in stature; slightly dark in complexion. She was more than 60, I guess. Even though Radhika happened to be Phili’s colleague from 2002 onwards, my acquaintance with Phili happened very recently a couple of months ago.

“You know Bala, I am in School foundation day team; as usual Phili is in charge
of lyrics. We need to pick her up in the evening. Her home is near Paris center-seiko”- that was my wife Radhika.

“Hey Radhika, don’t you know how difficult it is to drive in Seiko area? Why do you trouble me like this?” – I was complaining as usual, only to budge to her demand in the end. When we reached Seiko building area that evening, some one had ‘double parked’ his car, for my advantage and I parked my car behind. Radhika got down from our car, went and grabbed that fragile old lady who was standing near an optical shop. Literally Phili had to be guided to our car and lifted and put inside the car like a baby, into the back seat!

”Good evening, Mr.Balan and Sorry for the trouble I have given you” – Phili’s voice was quite young and enthusiastic, not matching with her body, battered by wear and tear of age. That day and a few more occasions, Phili happened to travel with us and her conversations with me lasted only for few minutes, nevertheless she impressed me a lot!

”You have got a nice car, Mr.Balan; I have learnt to board your car now without Radhika’s help. I bless your car”- said Phili one day with her usual grin.

“Radhika said you are interested in music; which are all the musical instruments you can play?”- Phili was curious to know. “No instruments, Maam; I am just a singer”- that was my polite reply (My failed experiments with key board and guitar are worth not mentioning said my ego!)

Phili’s way of speaking English and her diction looked very elegant to me.
She has served IISD for more than 22 long years. Always gentle towards children, pampering them positively.. That was Phili’s Style! Her interaction with them was not just limited to studies, dance/lyrics the list is endless.

“How are you Baby” – was Phil’s patented greeting; children, fellow teachers, headmistress, even Principal would have been a baby to Phili’s motherly heart, I thought!

Phili, the noble soul is not with us today. “Good morning. I am not attending school today. Planning to celebrate Xmas at home”- read the sms from Phili,
on that ill fated day. We never imagined that she would collapse in the morning due to a massive heart attack and leave us for ever, even before the medical help could arrive!

Month after month, year after year Phil patiently taught the kids, held their hands while they wrote alphabets, corrected their note books, pasted stickers in their papers, compiled them into book-lets and she did all these things without any complaints, she simply loved her job. She lived in Saudi with her husband, while her grown up sons and daughters stayed in India.

Now that Phili has become history, the school management is working on the modalities of sending her body to India and helping her grief stricken husband.

Even though Phili is physically not with us any more, there is no doubt that her silk like greeting “How are you baby” will be echoing across the walls of IISD for ever.

Wednesday, 17 June 2009

across the time line

1982 +++ (Scene 1:)

A fat guy is walking into the railway station platform with a shoulder bag and breifcase. (its me :-)

He has a habit of reaching station 1 hour before the train arrival time (not one day!) thanks to his father’s training. Then he keeps starring at the perspective meeting point of the rails, expecting the engine; that day was a total surprise to him!

When he is climbing the steps, train is already there in platform no#6. You know how long our railways staircases and platforms are there normally. He rushes and gushes as much he can.. just a couple of steps to clear.. BUT.. KOOOO.. the train has started already. By the time he finally lands in platform no#3, the train is GONE! He stands helpless there, with his luggage strewn on the floor!

All of a sudden, I woke up from THIS DREAM, sweating and suffocated! What a nightmare(!) it kept recurring while I was with you all in PSG.


1994 (Scene #2)

Life has totally changed after studies, job and marriage. There is absolutely no time to dreams… good or bad!

As a part of our family expansion program, radhika and I were blessed with son Aakash. I joined office after a week of spending time with Radhika in the hospital(Caesarian!).

Bosses have the knack of choosing wrong people at wrong time. My boss is also no different from this golden rule. He told me “Bala, you need to go to Nepal at the earliest; our canadian consultant needs YOU there to give approval for Tris Aqueduct project! Every day we used to go home by 9pm those days, atleast night at home; that also under threat? I did’nt say yes at that time. But the next day, I obliged after Radhika and FIL brainwashed me to go; quite ambitious people! (Later they did the same to launch me to gulf :((

I reached Delhi by train; then my first ever flight journey took me to kathmandu, flying across the shining snowy himalayas! 10 days stay in Nepal was fruitful, Canadian consultant asked only one question frequently to his Nepali counter part.. “Siami.. is there any catastrophy in design? If not.. approve. Everything got approved (Hope there is no catastrophy till date :-) Thanks to many tamil mamas+mami’s of our company in Nepal, food was no problem; in fact I could even celebrate(?!) my first anniversary in the absence of my better half.


On my Way back (Scene #3)

Return journey was dito.. Kathmandu – Delhi by flight; connecting train from Delhi to Chennai was in the night. Having achieved the approval victory, I was already in cloud nine and reached the company guest house, just short of some one taking “Harathi” and welcome. Till evening everything went on fine; a couple of hours were left for the train journey. Between the train and me, there stood a monster, other wise called.. DINNER. All these years in life, I might have missed doing many things/ regular or irregular on many habits; but a thing never missed or never compromised is 3 SQUARE MEALS a day (without counting the Norukku Theeni :)) That day was no different; the hospitality of chef, topped by the pleasant aroma of the chappatis and Khorma, mesmerised me and I did’nt know how the time slipping into my stomach, along with the delicacies. At last, I parted with the dining table and left the guest house, in an illfated AUTO.

In the first look, the auto driver looked very much like a typical villager from north india. He kept driving the auto into the congested streets of old delhi, kept driving and driving passionately(?!) I sensed some how that delhi railway station is no where in our road map; I started conversing with him in my butler(!) hindi and confirmed that he is in fact a villager and as old or as new to Delhi as I; we both started asking people around, stopping at every road junction/circle about the delhi railway station, as if we have lost it a couple of hours ago. Every great journey needs to end some where; ours too ended finally in Delhi station, probably an hour later than it could have been. I pushed rupees into his hands and.. started rushing and gushing towards .. realising my good old NIGHTMARE!

Climax

Yes, by the time I collapsed into the platform, I could see the Tamil Nadu Express, leaving the station in Barathi Raja’s style of slow motion. Never missed anything so far in life, not even a meal.. but the train.. its gone.. poyindi.. poye pochu.. chalgayache!!!! I felt for a moment, the world stopped spinnning; the clock stopped ticking and I was in a frozen time frame! Gathering my courage and confidence, I approched the ticket office; the grey matter in me started working – the untravelled first class ticket was surrendered and exchanged for a second class ticket for a later date ; a fax to office and a call to home restricted the damage done! I didn’t dare to return to the guest house out of shame; a nearby dusty lodge was a better choice.

Having realised my haunting dream of my life, I was completely relieved after that; the particular dream NEVER EVER returned in my life. Dear friends, I came to an understanding that unfilled wishes or baseless fears keep showing up in our worries when we are awake and in our dreams during sleep. In reality, if they happen one day, we do digest or accept them and come out of the situation and stand up with bruises and blushing. It is the fear or insecurity that keeps daunting us than the real failure.

2009 (Post production scene)

Now a days, I prefer to go to stations, in empty stomach. After all, pongal/idli/vadai/bonda will be available; if not a green banana or biscuits will temporaily relieve the appetite (only to be careful with biscuit offering co-passengers !!)

Thanks friends for joining my journey across 15 years in time line!

Monday, 1 June 2009

The Burning Desire..

The Burning Desire..


It has been my pleasure to work for the marketing team of Area 52 annual contest 2009. I had the advantage of having almost each and every member from Zamil, Energy, Diamond and Danatul clubs working shoulder to shoulder with me, on their own and tapping the available resources in a remarkable way.

The positive response from our sponsors has been outstanding and overwhelming, taking the current global economic scenario into deliberation. I would like to thank our Area 52 Governor and all officers of Area council for sharing their valuable time, energy, knowledge with me in this process and for their unconditional support and unlimited warmth.

The fire of friendship ignited among us, has grown into a burning desire for “Empowering People” to work in a closely knitted team and carry the ‘Torch of Toastmasters’ a long way. I will cherish every moment of this wonderful experience of working for the marketing committee for the simple reason, it added more friends to my life.

With warmest regards

TM Balasubramanian
Asst Governor (Marketing ) Area 52

First of all…


First of all…
TM Balasubramanian, Asst Area Governor- Marketing, Area 52




Dear Toastmasters,

First of all, let me congratulate you for being an integral part of Division F conference to make it a grand success. From club contests to Area contests, toastmasters have shown their everlasting enthusiasm and made sure that the events were conducted in line with the globally accepted standards of toastmasters international.


Area 52 has been a relatively new Area of toastmasters clubs and has come to existence a year ago. It also comprises of clubs which are five years old viz. Energy & Zamil Club and clubs which are around one year old like Diamond & Danat Al Khaleej. However many good things have happened to Area 52 this year, which I feel happy to share with you.


Area 52 was the first Area of Divison F to conduct its Annual contest in a grand way, of course with the support of Area 9 and Area 32 and Division F.

The Chairman of Division F Conference 2009, TM Natarajan belongs to Zamil Toastmasters Club of Area 52

The Contest Chairman of Area 52, TM Shuja who conducted the show in a spectacular way with his team, has been elected as the ‘First President’ of ‘Indian Engineers Forum –Dammam Chapter’


Corporate style planning of Energy Toastmasters, Customer satisfying cutting edge technology of Zamil toastmasters, Dynamic and dedicated efforts of Diamond Toastmasters juxtaposed with Amazing Arabic spirit of Danat Al Khaleej toastmasters could be attributed to our ‘collective success’


It is time to congratulate the other Areas of Division F, Area 9 and Area 32 for their wonderful annual contests and looking forward to see siblings and friends of toastmasters’ fraternity under ‘one roof’ at the Division F Conference 2009.


Packed with communication and leadership potentials, toastmasters are more than willing to help and willing to serve. For that to happen, they need to be approached, first of all!

Tuesday, 17 June 2008

Two sides of a Coin...

The Mirage

He stood in a crowded bus
His wallet with few rupees
He came to the town from
His village, in a poor form

His first ever travel by air
He sat silently in Gulf-air
His heart filled in dreams
He came to desert in rags

The gruesome work realities
That grilled him as penalties
To rise before scorching Sun
To race ahead of evading fun

Failing one day to show up
Friends, after a door break up
Found him dead in the barracks
Freed from the worldly shackles

He endured many dust storms
His endeavours to earn in riyals
He returned to homeland lying
Having lived ever without lying!

The Oasis

He stood in a crowded bus
His wallet with few rupees
He came to the town from
His village, in a poor form

His first ever travel by air
He sat silently in Gulf-air
His heart filled in dreams
He came to desert in rags

His gruesome work realities
Had grilled him as penalties
He rose before scorching Sun
He raced ahead of evading fun

He endured many dust storms
His endeavours earned him riyals
He returned to homeland flying
Having a family, eagerly waiting!

-by Dammam Bala



Monday, 31 March 2008

Surya Speaks..

You Got Game?-----------------------------

1. What is the game?

So think of your life as a game. Or your career. Or you weekend club game. Whatever. Take any situation that you are facing. Think of it as a game. To be successful in it you ought to be able to answer these questions.

2. What is the prize?

This reminds me of an old saw. A young boy was asked to run 50 yardsfast and was promised a plastic cup as a prize. The boy ran for the cup. An older man was asked to do the same. He asked why? He said,I'll give you the cup, you run! In other words the prize has to fit the stage in life you are in to be motivated

3. What are the rules?

In a regular game the rules are written. But in the game of life (or career) it is mostly unwritten rules that we will need to learn in addition to the written rules (laws)

4. Who is your competitor/ opponent?

Nothing focuses the mind like your opponent. India-Pakistan incricket. Coke-Pepsi. FedEx-UPS. US-USSR.

5. What does it take to win?I believe it takes head-heart-guts to win. All three. Not just brains. Not just drive. But also, as we say in tamil 'dil irrukka?'

6. What happens when you lose?

Grace under pressure. Does one lose sorely? Or be gracious in defeat? (Al Gore's 2000 concession speech). What does one learn. How does one come back? Life is full of second chances. So how do weget away from the 'all is lost syndrome' after one loss.

7. Practice

There is a fantastic story about Ronald Reagan. He always photographed well. All his pictures of meeting visitors were great. Why? President Reagan knew that each visitor valued the visit to the white house. But he himself saw hundreds, so he could get bored. So he made a routine out of it. When a visitor came, he would go to the exact same spot in the oval office, with the exact same pose - so that each visitor would get a great picture. Practice makes perfect.

8. Peripheral Vision

We are good at looking at what is in front of us. But as humans weare gifted with peripheral vision as well. When I was playing basketball at college, more than anything else, it was peripheral vision that I found helped us the most. When I was playing center, I could sense our star player (Prof's son) coming from behind me towards the basket. I would look the other way and get theball to him through my peripheral vision. Those were some of the most satisfying points we scored.

9. Final Whistle

In any game there is the final whistle. Boy, if you sit on your lead and hope to run the clock out, you are in big trouble. As they say,it ain't over until the fat lady has sung. You can be pipped at the last second. Ask the Lakers as Larry Bird of the Celtics repeatedly singled them with a last second three-pointer.Or Miandad and Chetan Sharma at Sharjah.So awareness of the final whistle and what it takes to get past it is important.

Finally,
10. LegacyThink of the Gavaskar-Border trophy.

Think of the Masters that BobbyJones left behind. What is one's legacy through sincere contributionto ones field of endeavor? Has the contribution been meaningful. Can you look back with pride and satisfaction at what has been.

Is one's honor and dignity intact?------------

It seems to me that if one asked oneself of any endeavor he or she is embarked upon, that these 10 questions above might frame the motivation to excel as well as the aspects of action that could lead to long-term and lasting success.I am sure that there are several more questions you can add (and hope you do) to extend this metaphor.

So....you got game?